Creativity
We tell each other to create things, but then we judge each other for what we created and how we created it. The inner critic inside ourselves is the hardest to stop listening to, even though they are sometimes the quietest of all to speak. They also do the most damage. and snakes and stones […]
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Distress Tolerance
Life isn’t fair. This one took me years to swallow. (Hello privilege!) I fought pretty hard to hide from it though. I wanted to keep it all inside. The unspoken pain that I tried to shove down, because I didn’t want it to be there. I thought that if I kept shoving it down that […]
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The Critic
We all have it, that inner critic inside your head that keeps telling you that you are doing it wrong, that you are a piece of shit, that you need to be this way or that way. It tells you what you should be doing. It’s harsh, it’s cruel, and it’s sometimes downright mean. But […]
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Days of Birth
Birthdays are something that I am starting to not understand. They are weird. We celebrate the day that we are born with fun times with friends and family, gifts of love, and sweet treats. It’s quite fun actually, for the person who was born. When you break down the actual birth process, shouldn’t we be […]
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A Fluidity of Identity
As women we tend to have a myriad of titles bestowed upon us, some wanted and some that feel more like a sentencing. We are expected to be so much, while as they same time not expecting to be anything ourselves. The Savior The Warner The Queen The Midwife The One Who Brings Light These […]
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Mindfulness
Ah the vaguest word in the dictionary these days! Except maybe for vulnerability or authenticity. The whole concept of mindfulness has evaded me for years, or rather I was avoiding it. It was completely unintentional, but it happened none-the-less. We live in a world that is evolving at a much more rapid pace than it […]
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Emotional Garbage Can
Do you ever wonder about why Oscar the Grouch is so gosh darn grouchy? It’s like he spews anger and hate no matter what is happening around him. That’s what happens to us as humans too. We stuff everything down into our emotional garbage cans. The problem is that we don’t know how to empty […]
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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
I was standing in the back of the kitchen screaming at my husband in complete tunnel vision mode. I knew logically that this was a terrible idea, and that I should probably stop. But I couldn’t stop. It was like all of the anger and hurt and fear just couldn’t be contained anymore. I am […]
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Mayday May Day
Holding the tips of frayed ribbons We dance around the maypole, Celebrating yet another spring, Another rebirth Another beginning Another renewal. May was named after the Roman goddess Maia. Maia was the eldest of the Seven Sisters, the seven nymphs who represented the constellation of the Pleiades. Ruled by Taurus, symbolized by the ram, it […]
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Receptive Foundations
I’ve been thinking a lot about foundations lately. Good old Merriam-Webster (what dictionary are we supposed to be using these days anyway?) basically sums it up in another word – support. What happens when there is damage to those foundations? Do we keep filling in the cracks hoping it won’t leak? I feel like the […]
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